On our pursuit for happiness and for and wealth, every now and then it makes sense to pause and reflect of what you have achieved and to be grateful for the blessings that you’ve received. Appreciate the progress you have made and continue to build your empire with dedication, desire and devotion.
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23 Behaviors Of A Gentleman That Every Man Should Adopt
It’s the little things that count the most.
1. A gentleman opens doors for a lady.
As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be
treated as ladies. Opening a door is not a gesture of condescension, but
rather courtesy and deference. As far as revolving doors go, modern
manners dictate that a gentleman allow the woman to enter first. Car
doors are no exception, regardless of who is driving. If a third party
is driving, open the curbside door and ensure that she is safely in
before closing it.
2. A gentleman walks closest to the curb.
The idea being, of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles and other urban calamities.
3. A gentleman makes reservations.
Doing something as simple as making a reservation not only shows
initiative and planning – and therefore concern for her – it also
guarantees you won’t be sitting around drinking watered-down margaritas
waiting for a giant pager to go off.
4. A gentleman gives her his jacket.
Especially when it’s freezing. Especially when it’s snowing. Especially
in the rain. If she looks cold, she’s cold. Just take your jacket off.
5. A gentleman is punctual.
If you’re not early, you’re late. Plan for traffic and other little
disasters. Make sure you have gas in your car. There’s no excuse for
being late. Respect her time. And if she’s late, don’t draw attention to
it. The correct answer to the question “how long have you been waiting”
is “I just got here a few minutes ago.” Never keep a woman waiting.
6. A gentleman rises when she enters the room.
Again, a sign of respect and acknowledgement. You should also rise
when she exits. At a meal, you stand when she excuses herself and again
when she returns. Even a partial rising shows gentle manners, but it’s
best to fully stand if possible.
7. A gentleman gives compliments sincerely and often.
The first words out of your mouth when you meet a woman on a date
should be along the lines of “you look stunning.” If you’re in a
relationship, don’t fall into the trap of taking her for
granted: compliment her as if you were courting her all over again.
8. A gentleman helps her to be seated.
1. Pull the chair out for her.
2. As her knees bend to sit, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest.
On a related note…
9. A gentleman gives up his seat.
Yes, on the subway. Yes, on the bus. Yes, in the waiting room at the
DMV. It doesn’t hurt. It costs you nothing. And if a pregnant woman or
elderly lady steps into your subway car, your first instinct should be
to immediately stand and offer your seat.
10. A gentleman helps a lady with her coat.
Ask, “May I?” Position yourself behind her and gently grasp her coat
near the collar and shoulder and allow her to slip free. Either drape
the coat over your arm or hang it up. To help her put the garment back
on, hold the coat in the same way and allow her to slip her arms in,
then straighten the collar as she adjusts.
11. A gentleman says “please” and “thank you.”
Far too often overlooked, a simple “please” and “thank you” can go a very long way.
12. A gentleman minds his table manners.
Even if you’ve never mastered the continental style of using utensils
(left hand, fork; right hand, knife), it doesn’t take any training to
not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open.
13. A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter.
There is nothing more offensive than someone who talks down to
someone and treats them as if they were inferiors. That kind of snobbery
has no place anywhere: it’s ill-mannered, awful for everyone around
you, and it makes you look like an ass. Treat people as you would like
to be treated.
14. A gentleman pays.
Put away the calculator. The term “going Dutch”
was invented by the English as an insult: they regarded the Dutch as
cheap. Just pay… and don’t think that paying means you’ve bought
anything more than dinner or drinks. There should be no expectations
attached.Under no circumstances should she see the check or have any
idea how much it is. A tight-lipped smile is your friend here, as
always.
15. A gentleman gets her safely to her door.
Her safety, comfort, and well-being are your first and
foremost priority. After a date, meeting, dinner… whatever… make
sure that she gets home safely and thank her for the pleasure of her
company.
16. A gentleman listens.
If you want to get to know a person, ask them questions… and listen to
their responses. Listening does not mean “waiting for your chance to
talk.” It means being attentive, learning to read responses, understand
reactions, and navigate someone’s emotional landscape.
17. A gentleman keeps his word and a secret.
Don’t commit yourself to any obligation that you are not willing to
brave fire, famine, and flood to fulfill. Likewise, when you are
entrusted with a secret, guard it as closely as you do your own. There
is no breakup, no fight, no argument, no falling out that absolves you
from this responsibility. Live and die with the secrets entrusted to you
locked away in your heart.
18. A gentleman never hits a woman. Ever.
No matter what: you never hit a woman. There’s no excuse. There’s no
possible argument to the contrary. There’s no “what if?” and there’s no
qualifier. Gentlemen don’t hit women. Ever.
19. A gentleman shows initiative.
If
you’re asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes
looks better…have an actual opinion. “They both look the same” or
“whatever you like” are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you’re asking
someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan.
20. A gentleman pays attention to details.
Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring
size (please note that nearly all jewelry stores display a default ring
size of 6 for women). Her favorite color. This information will prove
useful and when it does – when you show up with a bundle of lavender
because you know it reminds her of her grandmother – it shows you care.
21. A gentleman asks for her family’s blessing before proposing.
This modern departure from asking her father for permission
acknowledges the importance of her whole family: mom, dad, brothers,
sisters, grandparents. It shows respect for her family: you are, after
all, asking to join them.
22. A gentleman is a jack of all trades.
Science fiction author Robert A. Heinlein once wrote,
“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan
an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a
sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying,
take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze
a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal,
fight efficiently, die gallantly.”
A gentleman knows how
to do things. He’s the guy people look to in an emergency, whether it’s a
natural disaster or a social one. A gentleman is prepared to answer
questions and if he doesn’t know the answer, he knows where to find it.
He is confident and socially adroit, able to handle any situation that
life throws at him.
23. He goes out of his way to let her know he cares. Every. Single. Day.
Flowers. Affectionate post-it notes. Spa days. Simple compliments.
All of those things add up. So show your affection every day.
Manners aren’t something that should feel forced or ostentatious:
rather, they should make the people around you feel better about being
around you.
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